Last night was an episode of Basketball Wives, the show folks love to hate but can’t help but watch. I watch it because it’s hard to look away and because I have a column where I recap it on Ebony Magazine digital. And because I’m a fan of foolery.
So on this most recent episode, Tami Roman bullied another castmember (Kesha Nichols) on the show, and held the girl’s bag hostage until she received an apology. Who should have to apologize to some random to get their own property back? SO PETTY. You can read my recap post on Ebony.com.
Twitter exploded into hysterics, and folks dragged Tami by her lacefront all up and down my timeline. Mind you, people can be quick to snatch wigs on Twitter but this instance, it was earned it. She really showed her ass in this episode.
She used her anger to intimidate and scare the crap out of Kesha, who wrote a check her mouth can’t cash by even uttering Tami’s name when she wasn’t present. But Kesha wasn’t really looking for trouble, and Tami bullied her until she cried.
Roman got DRAGGED on Twitter for demonstrating the worst case of bullying I’ve ever seen an adult experience. It really felt like grade school all over again, actually. You see a girl who’s smaller than you, and you decided to pick on her. And then you hear that she voiced (to someone else) that she doesn’t like how you spoke to her, and you use that as an excuse to go all the way out in your acting out. And then at recess, you take her ball and refuse to give it back until she comes crawling to you to ask for HER ball.
That’s exactly what happened and the people of Twitter, who are known to be ratchet themselves, were disgusted. That’s how bad it was. Tami’s behavior was immature and she took it to a place it didn’t have to go. Watching Kesha BAWL on national TV because she felt so helpless was shameful.
“You want your purse. You want something from me, lemme hear it from you.” Tami, bish. WHO HURT YOU? I mean, I know a lotta people but did Kesha hurt you this bad?
Eventually, she did give Kesha her bag back but the way she did it was embarrassing. She only did it after she found out the girl had gone to hotel security to report her bag stolen. Tami took the bag to Kesha’s room to lambast her some more and make her feel even smaller than she already did.
Tami: “Here.” *extends bag to Kesha*
Kesha: “Thank you.” *tries to take bag*
Tami: *snatches bag back* “Did you ask for it?”
Kesha: “Can I please have my purse back?”
Tami: *gives her the bag and walks away*
Tami succeeded in humiliating the girl, but she failed at showing that she’s a mature adult. I need her to go sit down and re-assess her life and her anger management classes. Just have a FIRM SEAT. Something ain’t clicking because insecurities and pettiness were showing and she needs to tuck them both in.
At the end of the episode, Kesha left the Tahiti vacation after only being there for 48 hours. She was that spent and she was petrified of what else Tami might pull. And that’s not a good look on any level.
Tami is about 40 years old. Whatever street cred she’s trying to get is really unnecessary because grown folks don’t use that to accomplish much. So the draggage Ms. Roman got on behalf of the folks on Twitter was a bit earned. She should watch this episode and be SO ashamed of herself, which I think she was, because she tweeted this afterwards:
Well I’m glad she knows she showed out. I accept her apology (e’em though she wasn’t talking to me but whatevs). Tami should go apologize to Kesha, if she REALLY felt bad about how it went down. She should have been a woman and said she was wrong from jump street because she terrorized that lady.
I just want her to do better and really address the issues that plague her. Folks can’t be walking around that angry all the time and be healthy. Blood pressure is prolly SKY HIGH. It can’t be good for longevity on this Earth to be full of such vitriol and rage.
I like Tami Roman, and I think REALLY deep down, she’s an awesome person. But she’s got to get a grip on this anger of hers.
Did y’all watch it? Whatcha think of the purse-gate?