Last night was the premiere of The Houstons: On Our Own, the reality TV show on Lifetime starring the family of the late great Whitney Houston. This includes her daughter Bobbi Kristina and boyfriend Nick Gordon, Patty Houston, her manager and sister-in-law, Gary Houston, her brother and their daughter Rayah. And mama Cissy Houston.
I forgot it was coming on and had to catch the re-run because of peer pressure and because curiosity got the best of me. Not really because I wanted to watch it. The moment I found out that they were gonna have a show, I immediately thought “Isn’t this too soon?” and that thought has stuck with me. As I watched the show itself, I can firmly say that I believe this show is TOO SOON. TOO. DAMB. SOON.
There were many moments that pointed me to this conclusion and a lot of them involved Bobbi Kristina. When her mom died, I was truly concerned for her. Everyone knows how close those two were so I couldn’t even imagine her pain. She was hospitalized twice right after Whitney’s death and looked so heartbroken. She should be the family’s focus during this time because I’m afraid for what she might or has turned to as she mourns.
As indicated in the show, filming started 3 months after Whitney’s death. THREE MONTHS. This makes me assume that TWO months after she passed, they were already signing up for this show. 60 days. 8 weeks. That feels to me like nothing. That’s no time to really deal with the sudden death of a loved one. In fact, I’ve barely gotten over it and I didn’t e’em know the woman personally! But 2 months after, her family was already entertaining a TV show about their lives without her. And a month after that, they started filming.
Yes. Too soon.
Besides that, there are other reasons I think they should have held off on this show.
The Houstons showed that Bobbi Kristina has made her boyfriend, Nick Gordon, her whole life. It’s understandable that she’d turn to him after her death because Whitney took him in and he lived with them for years. But now, they are inseparable in a way that seems really unhealthy. They still stay in the house they shared with Whitney and they do everything together.
When they’re out in public, they’re constantly canoodling as if no one else is there. This would be cute if under some normal circumstances, but under the context, it feels like they’re trying to stay next to each other all the time from some latent fear of loss. That and the whole Clingy McSpidermonkey bit is annoying and it’s clear that Patty Houston is NOT here for it. Patty spent the whole time facepalming about Nick and Krissy’s relationship and how it’s keeping Krissy from the rest of the family.
Spider monkey game proper.
It also didn’t help that Nick and Krissy announced they were engaged at dinner. Krissy even showed off her ring, which was given to her by Whitney. Ummm… ma’am. Your engagement ring was given to you by your mama. What did Nick give you as a symbol of his love? Nothing? Oh aight. O_O HE coulda at least given her a ring pop. Something.
My absolute TOO SOON moment was when the family went to visit Whitney’s grave in New Jersey for the first time since her funeral. I was so uneasy watching this part. I felt like I was invading on their privacy for being let into something so intensely personal and painful and I squirmed while watching. I was all should I leave the room? I felt like I should leave them alone.
I don’t think the cameras should have captured the moment. Does it make for great TV drama? You know? Not even. No one watching that shoulda been all “THIS IS SO JUICY.” Nawl. It seemed too painful for even reality TV. Watching Cissy talk to Krissy and letting her know she needs to stay in better touch was just… Woooo. Man… I feel for them both.
And on top of that, it’s clear that Bobbi Kris is not coping well at all with her mother’s death. The distraction she isn’t getting from constantly being UNDER Nick, she’s looking for in other substances like drugs and alcohol. She’s 19 and isn’t even of legal age to drink. But she’s shown at dinner with Patty drinking liquor without giving a damb.
There was a scene where she was talking to Patty in Rayah’s bedroom, and her eyes looked like mine. They were super low (looking like -_-) and her speech was all slurred. She could barely form sentences. Homegirl was high as a KITE! I just kept going wowwwwwww. It reminded me of the time Wendy Williams interviewed Nippy and went “Whitney, you high right now.”
I’m pretty sure I won’t be tuning in to next week’s episode of The Houstons because it makes me uncomfortable. This isn’t ratchet TV like LHHATL. This feels like I’m eavesdropping on an ongoing family meeting where everyone wants to cry but they keep swallowing the tears away. This is me:
I think it was too soon.
I wonder what made them agree to do this. And I’m even more surprised that Cissy joined in. Folks tell me she seemed reluctant when she was interviewed on The View, but she chose to go along with her family. Still… what was the reason behind doing this show? I wanna know.
Any Houston-family reality show is gonna spell disaster at this point. This is giving me Being Bobby Brown flashbacks and we all know how that was.
Did y’all watch the show? Whatchu think?
P.S. I didn’t e’em talk about how everyone’s weave is busted on that show. GAHT. ATL is the mecca of weave. They coulda been hooked up better than that but I digress.