Yeah, I said it. YOLO!
Last night was Lifetime’s movie Betty and Coretta about Betty Shabazz and Coretta Scott King, wives of Malcolm X and Martin Luther King, Jr. They were played by Mary J. Blige (who also executive produced) and Angela Bassett. Y’all know Angela can act so good she’d play you and me better than we would ourselves.
I missed the movie for no good reason at all but was reading the tweets about it. Some folks were talmbout how Betty and Coretta stood tall by their men, even through disrespect and infidelity. They were a part of history, recognized it and dealt with all the crap that came with being with these icons.
They say behind every great man is a great woman. But really, behind every great man is a woman with patience, resilience and the strength of the best titanium steel. And she can clearly forgive like a saint. The wives of the men we put on these #PEDALSTOOLS (hashtags in front of words in my posts means I’m mispelling on purpose. For those ready to leave me angry comments) had to deal with some crap, infidelity being high on that list.
I throw Rita Marley in this too, because she had to deal with a powerful man who couldn’t keep his peen to himself. Treating his ‘talia like Living Social deals. Y’all know Bob was a rolling stone.
It’s known fact that MLK was cheating on Coretta (you know, since the FBI was being the TMZ of his day) and we all know Bob Marley had about fiddy eleben kids and only like 3 were by Rita. Malcolm? Well I’ma leave him outta this since folks still debate whether he cheated or not. But yeah… Coretta and Rita? Chile… them ladies went through it!
It couldnta been me married to Martin Lutha tha Kang! I’da cut his good tie in pieces the morning he was ‘posed to talk about what dream he had! He’da stepped up on that podium rocking neckwear he had to borrow from one of his homies. I’da hid his favorite wing tips before he went out on the Monument. Because I’m petty. Thank God Coretta was a better woman, with foresight to recognize history was happening.
Breaking news: “Martin was in the Birmingham City jail when his wife Luvvie showed up and told him he better go to Jesse’s house cuz she had heard…”
Exclusive story: “Civil Rights Leader Dr King not allowed in his own house as his wife Luvvie changed the keys on him.”
I am not about that life. Stand by your man has expiration dates if you treat our vows like iTunes Terms of Services. Yeah, you checked the “I agree” box but you don’t really care what the agreement said.
And Rita Marley took “ride-or-die” to epic levels that I truly do not understand. She was Bob’s wife only by paper cuz he was ALLOTHERWOMENERRTHANG. Dude thought marriage was that one day you wore a nice suit. Watching the “Marley” documentary really spoke of Bob’s Ain’t Shitness when it came to being a husband. He used to make Rita help him get rid of the groupies who were bothering him, like she was some sort of wingman or something.
Rita watched her hubby hoe out one day and show up the next day to sing backup for him. I’d kick the mic down in the middle of a concert. Once again, Rita’s better than me. I’d be pissed like “you just slept with 5 women yesterday and you want me to harmonize? EFF YOU!” Chile, the course of history surely would be different.
Breaking news: “Luvvie Marley kicked Bob in the shins in the middle of Redemption Song.”
“Turn Your Lights Down Low” was apparently about Miss Jamaica and Rita sat back there and crooned along with it on stage. You wrote a love song about some other broad and I’m supposed to meet you in the key of C-flat??? Choke on gum.
They didn’t e’em live in the same house. Bob basically had a frat house where all his boys would come and hang out and play soccer and all his groupies would come to. Rita was blocks away, helping to raise the kids other women had for him. It’s that island peen syndrome. No ma’am.
But yeah. All these women deserve props for not losing their minds dealing with the men who were, made and changed history. I pay ALL THE AMISH to each of them. And all the other women who don’t get enough credit for the roles they played.
Let the record show that this is not to take away from the greatness of MLK, Malcolm and Bob. THEY DID THAT. So much respect for these fellas for the footprints they left. But I am HERE for Rita, Coretta and Betty. TRULY ride-or-die.
Betty Shabazz. Coretta Scott King. Rita Marley. we speak your name. YES!
So could you do it? Would you have stood by Martin an’ em?
P.S. It took me about 5 tries to have the nerve to title this post. But it was my first choice. I was gonna go with the more filtered “History Didn’t Thank Coretta, Betty and Rita Enough” but that’s no fun. Ok carry on.
Category: Famous folks