STDFriends.com Exists. You’re Welcome!

There’s a dating website for people with STDs, and it’s called STDFriends.com. Folks go on there to find partners with STDs because they have one. Yes, really. And I won’t even shade it. Well, first I did, because I gave it a blank stare. O___O. And then I was all “Ok, lemme chill.” It makes sense.

Listen. I applaud the folks on STDfriends for being open bout their diseases. But it takes BALLS (‘scuse me) to be so public bout your privates. It takes the world’s most giant balls (which is probably a medical problem) to tell the world that you have genital herpes or HIV, and present yourself on an ePlatter. Letting folks know that it might have burned when you peed (before you got medication for it) is courageous. AND they get props for knowing their statuses. It means they’ve been to the doctor recently. Or one day, they went. Something.

So I won’t e’em judge. The good thing bout STDfriends.com is that the folks there can be fully transparent about their diseases, without the threat of stigma. Their first dates are probably less awkward because they’d both come to the table knowing what each other’s bringing to the… table. If you already know that your partner has herpes, and vice versa, it’s one less thing to worry about. So there IS a silver lining. Like on their profiles, at the very top, right under “height” was “STD(s).” There’s no element of surprise.

Being the nosy somebody that I am, I went on the site and looked at some of the profiles. And this is where the shade comes in. A lot of those people probably have poor dating lives because they aren’t great catches overall, not just because they have some incurable disease of the vajayjay or peen. Like the dude who was on there, 44 years old, 5’7 and making less than $25,000 a year. Sir, you’re not winning in A LOT of areas. The fact that he had herpes was a non-factor cherry in the non-winning sundae.

Or the dude who said his idea of romance is “holding hands.” Sir, are you 12??? You might be single because you’re boring, you like to discuss “the meaning of life” and the picture on your profile is at least 25 years old. It’s not because of your clap.

Anywho, this website just shows that there’s a community online for EVERYONE. Having an STD isn’t the end of your dating life. Join STDfriends.com! They should pay me for this ad. Like totally.

So… what do you guys and gals think of the website?

By the way, folks. This is a good time to remind everyone to wrap it up. Prophylactics are our friends. They are there to protect us from bad 3-letter words/acronyms. Like STDs. And HIV. And KID. Let’s use them.

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  1. Suburban Soulgirl
    November 29, 2011 at 7:05 am

    Lord knows I couldn’t date someone with an incurable STD, but they need love too so I am glad the site exists.

    • November 29, 2011 at 11:14 pm


  2. Lexi
    November 29, 2011 at 7:35 am

    I applaud them, too many negative stigmas associated with people who have incurable diseases, so kudos to them and the creator of the website!

    • November 29, 2011 at 11:14 pm


  3. Serenity
    November 29, 2011 at 8:30 am

    I felt dirty just looking. Now I need a shower….

    • November 29, 2011 at 11:14 pm

      Cleanliness is always encouraged lol

  4. Cousin Utter
    November 29, 2011 at 8:34 am

    WHAT THE WHAT! STD.COM! LOL IM DONE, period goes here

  5. Cousin Utter
    November 29, 2011 at 8:36 am

    Lol @ Serenity me too

  6. Islandchick550
    November 29, 2011 at 8:58 am

    I nearly choked when reading the last part about the 3 letter words!!! KID… Lololol!!!

    • November 29, 2011 at 11:13 pm

      LOL man for real. The gift that depends on your for EVERYTHING. Nawl. lol

  7. November 29, 2011 at 9:12 am

    Good for them!! I have a really good friend that I need to show this too…her ex gave her herpes, and she feels awkward dating….She said it’s hard telling new people that you have an STD, so she just chooses not to date….

    • November 29, 2011 at 11:12 pm

      AW DAMB! :-/ I hope she understands that there are folks who’ll accept her. Life isn’t over.

  8. Tealwater
    November 29, 2011 at 9:41 am

    This is good there are so many people out there infected with so many std’s that don’t even know it and the more and more they push for HIV prevention the more people will get tested and become aware of their status. Sites like this could possibly prevent the stigma in these people dating. I think overall it’s a great idea. Bravo to who ever came up with this. I pray that people with HIV and other STD’s live a long happy life with a partner.

    • November 29, 2011 at 11:03 pm

      YUP! That’s what I’m saying!

  9. November 29, 2011 at 4:03 pm

    Oh, uhm.

    Well.. people with STDs need love too right?
    But that is one dating website I won’t be signing up with anytime soon.
    Or ever.
    Yeah, ever sounds correct.

    • November 29, 2011 at 10:55 pm

      They sure do need love so I ain’t gon hate.

  10. Erin
    November 29, 2011 at 4:17 pm

    Um…well…yeah, good idea…in theory. But how much you wanna bet scorned folks are creating profiles with their exes names and pics? LOL

    • November 29, 2011 at 10:55 pm

      LMAOOO!!! Folks ARE petty as hell out here. I could see that happening. SMH.

  11. Lorin Williams
    November 30, 2011 at 4:26 pm

    fnmadf a vhjdk.afkbvjkfbkvjabskdlvnasd

  12. December 1, 2011 at 1:23 am

    Why are you hating on this website? LET KIM KARDASHIAN BE GREAT!

    • December 1, 2011 at 3:37 am

      *drags you by your color* *throws you out like Uncle Phil does Jazz* LMMMAAOOOO!!! You’ont e’em know how to act!

  13. December 3, 2011 at 2:44 am

    First of all, Luvvie, I absolutely LOVE your blog. I’ve recently become a convert and it is a true dose of LOL.

    As far as the STD dating website is concerned, I think it’s a great idea because it takes some of the stigma away from having an STD. I’m always amazed at how cavalier most Americans are about sex, yet people want to shame others and be the moral police when it comes to STD’s.

  14. December 3, 2011 at 9:28 am

    This is a hilarious post. I’ve never heard of this site before. Wow! I love your take on it! lol