About Prince Harry, Meghan Markle and the Love They Chose Over Everything
It was just announced that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle aka the Duke and Duchess of Sussex will be relinquishing their royal titles, duties and money. As a member of the Monarchy, Henry Charles Albert David is entitled to certain things, like “His Royal Highness” as a title, and public funding for a lot of his life. When he married Rachel Meghan Markle, she, by virtue of being his wife, had access to some of these benefits of varying degree.
But see, all that glittered wasn’t gold but ash. The British Monarchy’s existence is a forever spotlight on class superiority, with an ever-present underpinning of exclusivity by ethnicity (no shoutout to racism). Meghan, whose mother is a Black woman from California, was fighting an uphill battle from the moment Harry fell in love with her.
After years of the British media and tabloids’ utmost disrespect, deep scrutiny and a monarchy that hasn’t done too much to protect someone who should be family to them, here we are. Kate Middleton’s caucasity never had to deal with this level of trolling and hate directed her way that Meghan’s melanin has.
Harry and Meghan made the decision to step back from it all. The duties, the titles, the money. Because the drumbeat all along is that Meghan is not good enough for Harry. Her only crime has been being a Black woman, not of the bourgeouisie, who found love with a ginger-haired white man whose family is at the head of a centuries-old caste system. That is Meghan’s ONLY crime, and for it, she’s been loudly lambasted by a public that still has its head in its own ass, over the fact that white people sometimes find Black people they adore, and marry. And a BLACK PRINCESS? People’s minds have been exploding since that Royal wedding. Even when Disney gave us a Black princess, she was a frog for 75% of the movie she was in.
Once this became public, of course it became the talk of the world. And social media, being a microcosm and a megaphone of the world’s thoughts, has exploded with all types of takes. The ones that make me want to beat my head against a wall are the loudest and wrongest dimwits who are wondering why Prince Harry is daring to do this, just for Meghan. From paid simpletons like Piers Morgan to unpaid random trolls sitting in their parents basements in ratty underwear.
People are fixing their useless mouths and fingers to ask why Prince Harry is sacrificing his royal title and money for his wife, and it lets me know why some people won’t ever have anything worth protecting in life. Toxic ass goats.
Love is a verb. It isn’t just to post about on the internet. It isn’t just about changing your Facebook status. It surely ain’t just about being able to say “I have a wife.” or “I have a husband” because it sounds cute. If you’re not willing to protect what you say you cherish, then what is the point?
People really do not know what showing up means. What Harry is doing, is showing up for his family. And it’s a beautiful thing.
And then folks are calling this MEGXIT to demonize Meghan, as if she tied this man down and forced his hand. As if Prince Harry isn’t a grown ass man who has the world at his feet and can literally make any choice he wants. As if he didn’t witness for himself, what could happen when someone who married in to the Monarchy is deeply unliked and lambasted publicly could literally DIE for it. He has spoken openly about how the death of his mother, Princess Diana, when he was 12, has affected and continues to affect him.
Really, I think it comes down to the fact that people find it completely unbelievable that a white man (a royal one, at that) could pick a Black woman as his partner, and then pick HER over everyone and everything else in his life.
There are even some people, who are Black, spewing some of this. That Harry didn’t do this because of Meghan, but because of his disdain for the Monarchy. Harry HAS had a problem with Royal life but what made him make this decision now, and in such a concrete way, was his family: Meghan and Baby Archie. I will not reduce the enormity of his decision with “well he’s been tired of royal duties.” Ok. But if he was a single man, he might not feel the urge to do this now.
Some people are actually also showing their own baggage in not understanding that Meghan and the love of her, is what allowed Harry to come to this place, where he is making this decision. Meghan (and you, in case you need to hear it) are worth this sacrifice.
Women are the ones usually expected to sacrifice for their family. So part of what’s happening here is a man is giving up A LOT for his family and people are shell-shocked and projecting their own baggage unto this. Meghan had a whole budding career in Hollywood. She dropped it and moved across the pond and no one thanked her or made a big deal of it. Because that’s what she was supposed to do, right?? Yeah ok.
People are trying to call Harry’s manhood into question for putting love and family first, over money. This act of his proves he is more of a MAN than most people can fathom. I’m sure some of the men who are calling his machoness into court, are the types of miss the birth of their baby for some random sporting event. You, know, the types of troglodytes who think the only emotion to show is anger and the only time to cry is when their mama dies. It be the same people who are worried about women who are “golddiggers.” FOOL YOU DON’T EVEN HAVE TIN FOIL OR THE SENSE GOD GAVE A TOENAIL! WHAT WILL A WOMAN HAVE TO DIG FROM YOU!?!?!? The fuckery abounds.
I am heartened with the love Harry and Meghan are choosing over everything else. The yuckmouths who question this act are proof that some people exist in this world to inspire the rest of us to not be them.
Happily ever after isn’t some prince coming to save his love. It’s a grown man, telling the world that his family is more important than anything else, and that he will do what he can to protect it. May we all have someone or people in our lives who are worth cherishing, protecting and fighting for in a world that tells us to chase money first, not love.
I wish Harry and Meghan and Archie peace.